I found my friend sitting by herself and gazing out… in an absolute spellbinding solitude. The otherwise chatterbox thus silenced got me thinking… I pulled out my camera and without her knowing I snapped happily until she turned around and recognized the intruder –> ME!
At 9, when I told my my parents about my decision to stay single…. well they listened to me. My words may have fallen into deaf ears then. So I had to call them for a serious talk when I turned 15.
The excerpt as I remember (Part I):
ME: Mom, Dad. I want to stay single and I mean it. I’ve thought it through and that’s the way it’s going to be.
That was the end of the conversation (it was sometimes in the morning).
The excerpt as I remember (Part II):
Evening, mom asked me if she could talk to me. She looked concerned (finally my decision must’ve made some impression).
MOM: So, are you sure about staying single?
ME: YES (Not-again Yes).
MOM: I must tell you it’s not going to be easy.
ME: I know (the I-don’t-care-what-you-have-to-say I KNOW).
MOM: Maybe you don’t know but I’m not here to change your mind or your decision. It’s your choice… Life is tough for a single girl/ woman. It gets very lonely and unbearable as you grow old. You know Aunt “………..” (I had always pitied my aunt, she is an old hag), that’s who you’ll more or less end up like (my decision’s starting to falter ).
And the sad part is I can’t even tell you marriage guarantees happiness. Maintaining relationships needs hard work, solid work.
You have to work hard to be happy whether you choose to be single or not. I just hope you’re not choosing to be single because you think it’s the easy way out. And if that’s the case, I want you to know it isn’t.
The CONCLUSION (I drew and still live by) is in Bold & Italic texts.
WOW!!! My mom sounds like a mom’s version of Dr. Phil B-) [Trust me, that’s not always the case.]
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