People say I am very good at “the vanishing act”. I do not doubt the “people”. So from an expert, in case you might want to carry out “the vanishing act”, here are 5 things you need to do to VANISH into thin air:
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De-activate your Facebook account.
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Quit your full-time job, do some freelancing instead.
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Get a new mobile number.
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Get a new hairstyle.
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Travel to a new place (at least for a month).
What makes me the expert??? Well, I have burnt bridges… I have burnt so many of them that if this were literal, I would have ashes measuring the height of [probably] the Eiffel Tower… Yes, oh yes, I do exaggerate… But then again, I have burnt bridges a lot… you know what I mean…
Do I have regret burning bridges? No. When you know the bridges are weighing you down, methinks it’s better to burn them instead of getting weighed down. As a young woman, I wasted my time and energy in trying to save the bridges that were drowning me. Then, I used to think that the only way to keep myself from drowning was to be weighed down by the bridge that was already under water. So, no regrets, whatsoever.
Although I do think of the relationships that I have had to forsake. They were good friends… great friends… at one point of time. Misunderstanding, miscommunication, misapprehension, misreading expressions, misleading conclusions, mistaken mistakes and many more mis-es led up to the demise of such relationships. I say demise because these burnt bridges, these ended friendships, can never be rebuilt, can never be rekindled.
Soon, we learn to leave with who we have. Soon, we don’t need the urge to vanish. Soon, other people will fill the places left vacant. Slowly we heal, and surely with scars.
So, let us not worry about vanishing, if that helps us give our “self” back. So, let us not worry about burning bridges, if that helps us from keeping afloat. So let us vanish if we must!!!
Lovely post! I could relate to a lot of things you said here.
Thank you very much for your comment! Glad you liked it 🙂
Your vanishing how-to list sounds fabulous. I could never afford to quit my job and freelance… or travel… or move anywhere. But sometimes, dropping off the radar is the most amazing thing every.